5 Dating Red Flags You Should Never Ignore, Experts Warn

Making yourself known isn’t easy. It’s not just a matter of having to find someone that is interesting enough to set up dates with initially You then have to locate a date and time and put together a comfortable outfit and then take yourself to the location and then prepare for a small conversation. After you’ve got past awkward greetings and awkward introductions, the actual work starts. It’s now time to meet the person and decide whether they’re a good match for you. Are you unsure of what to do? We’ve got you covered. Check out the warning signs of a relationship that you shouldn’t miss from the first date According to therapists.

1. They don’t share any views.

If someone you’ve recently met doesn’t agree with the things you’ve said it is possible to take your time and proceed cautiously. Tanisha Ranger CSAT, PsyD, a registered clinical psychologist believes they may be doing this in order to avoid having to divulge any information about themselves that could expose some incompatibility among you. They’ll pretend that you’re all in love with similar things–“and in reality, that’s not true,” says Ranger.

Anyone who is doing this may be trying to trick you into believing they’re the ideal partner. It could also be more innocent. “The other concern is that they … truly don’t have a lot of opinions and perhaps don’t like making decisions,” Ranger adds. Ranger. “And let me tell you, it can be incredibly exhausting to make all the decisions because the other person always says something along the lines of ‘I don’t care. Whatever you want to do.'”

2. They don’t bother you with any questions.

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A good first date ought to be a conversation that is even. If you find that you’re not the only one to ask questions, then you’ll need to note this. “It’s important that both people on a date are not just listening to the other person talk in order to find something they can relate to and interject with, but to listen in order to truly get to know this person,” says Megan Sherer, a holistic psychotherapist working in New York City and Los Angeles. “Ideally you would want both people to be asking thoughtful follow-up questions to show their interest and engagement in what you’ve been sharing.”

If your date isn’t acting like these things, Sherer says it could be an indication that they’re stressed and talking to themselves. However, it could suggest a greater inability to build real intimacy. “You deserve someone who is fascinated by your stories and eager to get to know what makes you you,” Sherer says. Sherer.

They are too eager to ask questions.

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On the other hand the opposite, asking too many questions can be an indication of trouble. “If you walk away from the date and feel like you talked about yourself a lot and you know hardly anything about them, it could be a sign that they are hiding something or are vetting you based on some internal criteria like your position in life, your wealth or friends group,” Says Celeste Labadie, licensed marriage and family therapy located in Colorado. It’s not difficult to leave the dates you’ve had and believe that they were a success. “We all like to have someone show interest in us,” Labadie says. Labadie. “But there’s a tipping point on true interest and gathering information about you.”

They’re not pushy in any way.

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Be aware of that your date is trying to push you beyond your limits during a first date. “This might look like not taking the hint that you’re not comfortable talking about certain topics, pushing the ordering of another drink, or being pushy around your boundaries on time, to name a few,” suggests Billie Roberts, an occupational psychotherapist from Columbus, Ohio. “People tend to be on their best behavior when making a first impression, so sometimes suspicious behavior during a first encounter may just be the tip of the iceberg.” A more intense and arduous boundary-pushing could be in store if you keep the relationship.

The date is too appealing to be real.

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Make sure you go on the first date feeling that you’ve met your soul mate. Or that the person you’re in love with feels loved in a way that no one had before. Based on Julie Landry, PsyD, ABPP, founder of Halcyon Therapy Group located in San Antonio, Texas, this could be an indication of trouble. “The problem is, it’s too much too soon,” Landry says. Landry. “While this is typically an unconscious behavior, it’s a manipulation tactic and often a sign of narcissism.”

Love bombing can create an all-consuming love affair that incorporates elements of control, guilt, and codependency. “It’s easy to fall into what feels like romance but is actually emotional abuse,” Landry says. Landry. If you suspect that the love bomb is present in your relationship, talk to an experienced relative, friend or therapist to gain their viewpoint.


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